My Boyfriend Is Using Me

January 1st, 2000

“I WAS GOING OUT WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR NINE MONTHS, AND THEN I BROKE UP WITH HIM, I REALIZED THIS WAS A MISTAKE BECAUSE I TRULY LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART, SO HE TOOK ME BACK. OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS ALWAYS BEEN LONG DISTANCE SO THAT ALWAYS ADDED AN EXTRA LEVEL OF DIFFICULTY. BUT ABOUT A MONTH AGO HE BROKE UP WITH ME AND TOLD ME HE STILL LOVED ME BUT THE DISTANCE WAS TOO MUCH TO HANDLE. WELL WE STILL TALK AND WE GOT TOGETHER THIS PAST WEEK AND I STILL REALIZED HE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, BUT NOW I JUST FEEL USED. WHAT DO I DO?? PLEASE HELP!!”

Carla Rickson

Jo’s Advice

All right, all right, no need to yell. Geez, you’d think you’re the only person in the world with a problem.

Seems to me the two of you are complicating this much more than need be. There are two questions here. 1. Do you love each other – apparently you TRULY LOVE HIM WITH ALL your HEART. And according to him HE STILL loves YOU. That’s one difficult thing out of the way.

2. Can you handle the distance thing? You say OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS ALWAYS BEEN LONG DISTANCE SO THAT ALWAYS ADDED AN EXTRA LEVEL OF DIFFICULTY. Difficult, but not impossible. He on the other hand says, THE DISTANCE WAS TOO MUCH TO HANDLE. So there’s your answer, love. He can’t hack it – sorry, it’s harsh but it’s true. If you continue to sleep with him, you will feel used because he’s not giving you what you need – commitment, respect, a similar postcode.

So if you don’t like feeling used, stop sleeping with him. And if it’s that hard, just move. Either to be with him or get away from him – it’s up to you.

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